with liberty and justice FOR ALL!

every night we have a bedtime ritual with shortstack ... a little bit of story time, bedtime prayers and then the pledge of allegiance. now, the pledge is a bit entertaining on several levels for me ... first of all, if you've ever heard a 5 year old say the pledge, you'd have a little smile on your face too. secondly, panda is not from the US ... the fact that she isn't and the fact that i am unabashedly ethnocentric makes the entertained smile on my face even bigger! but last night, when i curled around my little boy and said the pledge, i did so with a HUGE, PROUD smile on my face. why, you may ask? because yesterday, the governor of hawaii signed into law SB 232. this law legalizes civil unions no matter the sex of the partners. HOLLA!! yep! i live in one of the seven states that have recognized that liberty and justice is TRULY a right for ALL ... EVERYONE!

to make the day even more momentous, our president has declared DOMA unconstitutional. my lord! dare i hope to believe that my government is realizing that they need not be concerned that i plan to marry another woman because she is the person that i want standing with me through this life? so, yes, my friends ... yesterday was a banner day ... my state and my country loudly proclaimed that i am also deserving of liberty and justice ... as is my soon-to-be-wife.

so, i can assure you, i will continue to say the pledge of allegiance with a smile on my face ... not only one of entertainment, but also one of pride.

if i have to wake you up one more time ...

... i CAN'T believe that those words come out of MY mouth. after all, i am the least likely person in my house to be the first one awake, first one functional, first one moving and completing morning tasks ... but this morning, I AM!!! heeheeheehee ... seriously! let me explain a bit for those who don't intimately know me. i am NOT a morning person ... in fact, i personally believe that mornings are a STUPID idea (cue shortstack saying "mama, 'stuipid' is a BAD word!"). yes, you read me correctly ... mornings are stupid. i don't wake up happy or in a good mood - no matter how much sleep i get. but this morning, something's different ... i'm the first one up. as i sit here typing this, i've inhaled my cheerios, had my first shot of caffeine, browsed through my favorite blogs (refer to left-hand tool bar), woke panda up twice, woke shortstack up four times and now i sit with two sleepy (grumpy) heads across the table from me ... AHHHH!!! morning rituals!!

first-morning(s)-of-the-week (usually mondays - but there are the rare tuesday-first-morning(s)-of-the-week such as this week) are tough around this house. besides the fact that we LOVE our weekends. and that some of us are VERY opinionated about mornings, the first-morning-of-the-week means that we jump back into an exhausting schedule that combines, long commutes (well, as long as you can have on o'ahu), work at two institutions, kindergarten (and kindergarten homework!), mama's school (ugh- stats!), thesis writing, daily chores, miscellaneous meetings and appointments (panda is hitting up an AYSO spring meeting tonight and mama has multiple doc appts tomorrow), bath time, laundry time, cooking meal (oh ... so THAT'S what the stove is for), unpacking (STILL) ... well, you get the picture ... the first-morning-of-the-week means that all of that starts and speeds up and we get run over by our days. but, it also means that we're well on our way to the last-day-of-the-week (YAY!!!) which means i get to spend my lazy weekend days hanging with my favorite peeps, cooking made-up recipes and enjoying time forgetting about all the things we need to do. yep!! so, although it's a rough and tumble frist-day-of-the-week morning ... we're one day closer to the thank-the-lord-its-about-time-last-day-of-the-week afternoon!

here's to hoping that all of you have a good one!

this moment

this moment

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love is love ...

this past summer, panda and i took a trip to CA. we did a quick wine tasting jaunt to temecula with my beautiful aunty jean. besides enjoying (and purchasing) a tad bit of yummy wines, i did a lot of window shopping as well! (yes, baby ... i said window shopping!!) panda came across this hand-painted frame (a bit out of the willing-to-pay price range) and i fell in love with it. SO, i did the next best thing to purchasing it ... i took a picture of it so that i could recreate it when i came home ... or at least pass on this pearl of wisdom ...

LOVE knows no border,

be it place,

race,

gender,

age,

or time.

Love is Love

this is it my friends ... LOVE IS LOVE ... and no one has the right to impose their ideal of validation or approval on it if it is a non-harmful, consenting relationship between two adults. throughout the past two years, as hawaii has been embroiled in a contentious and polarizing debate about civil unions and same-sex relationships, i have heard ridiculous rhetoric that compares same-sex relationships to unequal and harmful relationships between adults and children, people and animals, polygamists (which, although i think is an unhealthy and insane type of relationship, i don't necessarily think it should be illegal ... as long as the partners are consenting adults. yes people, i am a feminist ... and i do think that there is an inherent power play within these types of relationships). i repeatedly hear that legalizing same-sex marriage will ruin the institution and morality of marriage, our children will be harmed, families need a mother and a father ... SERIOUSLY ... well peeps, listen up ...

1) i don't subscribe to your sense of morality

2) if my marriage to my wife messes up your marriage with your husband/wife, then honey ... your relationship was screwed up in the first place

3) the institution of marriage is FAR from perfect ... what is our divorce rate now? still over 50%? if the federal government still refuses to legalize same-sex marriag, then it is time to outlaw divorce

4) my child is doing just fine! in fact, he's doing better now than he ever has. after all ... let's remember that my heterosexual partner with whom i conceived my child left our long-term relationship and i was a single mother for ... oh, the whole time until my relationship with panda. shortstack now sees before him the model of whole, true, honest and healthy relationship that is inclusive of him and encourages him to - above all - be honest about and to himself and live his truth.

5) nope - families don't need a mother and a father ... they need to be constructed with love and honesty and inclusive of all who is welcomed into the family. they need to be a healthy haven from the storms of life and they need to provide stability, structure and protection ... i guarantee that having one person with a vagina and one person with a penis heading that family does not a healthy family make!

AND FINALLY ...

YOU don't get to say who, when, why, how I get to love or live ... so shut up!!

OUR love, OUR family, OUR marriage ...

NONE of your business!!!

will you civil union me?

CHEE HOO!!!  i am so proud of my state today!! we have just received word that Hawaii has reached two MAJOR milestones in LGBTQ rights:

1) the honorable Sabrina McKenna has been confirmed to hawaii's highest court. she is an open and out lesbian who has a long-time relationship with her partner with whom she has several children
2) civil unions for all gay and het couples have been approved by the legislature and is moving on to the governor for his signature into law

whether or not people agree about whether or not LGBTQ marriage is "moral", i believe that any rational person must recognize that - if you remove the religious lens - LGBTQ couples cannot rightfully be denied the right to marriage. i am somewhat in shock that we have finally achieved a previously-unknown level of equality. my family and i will be celebrating tonight! i hope that you will join us ...

maeve, artemis, diana, ishtar

maeve: "honor the cycles of your body, energy levels and emotions"
artemis: "you and your loved ones are safe and spiritually protected"
diana: "keep your unwavering thoughts, feelings, and actions focused on your target, and you will make your mark"
ishtar: "love yourself enough to say no to others' demands on your time and energy"

i believe unquestionably in the higher powers of this world and beyond. i believe that there are unknown and unnamed powers that have a hand in life and living. i also believe that within us are echoes of those powers that be and we have the ability to connect our internal wisdom to those unknown powers. and so i search for a multitude of ways to touch the fount of powers and wisdom by looking for the messages and guidance that is passed to and through us on a daily basis. this morning, after sending my family on their way, i took a few minutes to see what my lovely goddesses were telling me ... and so the ladies who ended up at my table all had important messages and thoughts for me to reflect on as i move through my day ...

sometimes coffee just ain't enough ...

i hate to say it, but sometimes, my morning cup of coffee just isn't enough to make me fit for human consumption. this morning that definitely is the case!! it was one of those "another day is here but i want to refuse to get out of bed - but hafta because keeping the shortstack home from school is not an option (neither is not going to work) - thank god that panda can deal with shortstack's grumpiness - throw frozen waffles into the toaster oven and hope they warm through before they end up on the plate - why doesn't the coffee maker make coffee fast enough - fine! i'll eat and talk even though i just want to go back to bed - get dressed TWO times for work because what i chose the first time is only fit for staying in bed - FINE! i will get in the car and drive but i won't like it - i absolutely love my family because they know when they are better off blowing me kisses rather than approaching the beast - and finally ... yes! i have made it to work and am at my desk !! now what am i supposed to be accomplishing today??"

and so my coffee cup is getting lighter, my computer's buzzing, morning paperwork is stacked neatly in front of me (camouflaged by my cat-in-the-hat lunch bag so that i can pretend - at least for a few more minutes - that i don't have to behave in a socially acceptable way today). guess it's time to face the world ... and hope that coffee will somehow work its magic and make me a bearable human being today. otherwise, a warning to the wise - beware! i'm grumpy because coffee just ain't enough so far today!!